In 2008, when Barney Stinson, popularised the term “Bro-Code” through a character from the television show “How I Met Your Mother” It was referred to as a friendship etiquettes mostly practised amongst men or, more specifically, among members of the Bro subculture. But the “Bro Code” have been there since the beginning of mankind.
From the earliest times when the stone age, homo sapiens decided to stay together in groups, we formed cults who believed in same ideologies. These “Bro Codes” were not essentially the guidelines that were to be followed by the mass but specifically chosen ones, in most cases these were the alpha males.
Whether it were the Conservative Civilizations or the Pirates, to Gangsters, to leaders of Political Ideologies, to music bands, bikers gangs, there has been the existence of these “Bro Codes” from the beginning of the times. Tattoos, inking, secret marks of identifications are classic examples to understand these cult ideologies.
Today it’s not restrained to be used only by men but has become the most “Chilled-Out way to refer to a Code of Conduct” for any cult or a group which is very tightly knit and emotionally connected.
These “Bro Codes” become more influential than the rules that we make for our kids as parents. While affiliation is good but at times, the peer pressurizes one to pick up the unhealthy attitudes & habits. Habits that are perceived to be cool but have devastating impact resulting into substance abuse, conduct disorders, delinquency, anxiety, depression leading to suicidal behaviour.
But, why do we give in to these pressures? Because as a child, we all have been trained, conditioned to be accepted by all, adhere to the so-called norms, to fit in the bell curve. And when we don’t comply with these norms, either out of choice or due to circumstances, we feel out casted. Therefore to “fit-in”, to be accepted by all, we begin to deceive or hide from others and gradually disconnect from ourselves. Any disagreement or deviation from the norms, be it in academics, professional excellence, personal relationship or about one’s own sexuality, any of these can pose a threat to our lives.
And when someone decides to give up on life, it’s not just a reflection on one person, or a family but it shows upon the entire community. Whether it’s the students who succum to the pressures created by the parents & the institutions or the Businessman who associated his self-worth with the Profit & Loss related accounting sheets of his company. If there was a close support from these “Bro Codes” I feel they could have handled their life situations better.
So, I want to evoke the positive aspect of these “Bro Codes” to support each other. The ancient Indian thought of Vasudhev Kutumbakam ( the world is my family) stands as relevant as ever, when we consider ourselves a “Global Citizen” we need to take the collective responsibility for each other.
My BRO CODE – 1. If my BRO is in distress, I will HUG-IT-OUT. 2. Even if we are not pals but if some “BUDDY” needs help, I won’t shy away. 3. I will keep away from “ABUSE” of all kinds, coz that’s my “BRO CODE“!!
Let there be more & more clans, groups that we become part of, let there be more stronger “Bro Codes”, let everyone feel responsible for everyone else. Let the whole community be standing tall, supporting & never giving up on Life!!
James M Kauffman Merrill/Prentice Hall, One Lake Street, Upper Saddle River, NJ 07458., 1997 “Characteristics of emotional and behavioral disorders of children and youth”
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