“Don’t you copy me!! Why can’t you think of something on your own? Why must you always do what I do?” Her complaint was genuine but so was the response she got from her younger sibling. “Because you are my hero!! And I want to be like you”, she announced and made an exit, stomping her feet as loud as possible.
As usual, I played the role of a naïve audience, only this once I pretended to be an audience who is watching a Chinese film, which has no subtitles.😂😂
“She is such a copy cat!!”, the elder one looked at me, seeking for some support and then plugged her earphones again to enjoy Christina Perri’s magic with her vocal cords.
While both the parties, as in the two parties in a conflicting situation got busy with their routine, as always they gave me food for thought.
‘Copy for Coping!’ Such an empowering thought, isn’t it?
The counter-question could be that where is the value for a genuine work or a thought? 🤔🤔
True that but wouldn’t you agree to the fact that we don’t have to re-invent the wheel in order to prove your genuineness or genius, we would rather use that amount of energy and effort to bring about the innovative use of that wheel and be benefitted. (All copyright and patent-related matters don’t fall under this category, and should be treated as per the law of the land. 😅😅)
Now, you must be wondering what made me propagate ‘Copying’ as empowering thought! and how in the context of Mental Well-Being?
Allow me to take you on a mental tour for a few minutes…Go back in your earliest memories when you stood in front of the mirror and mimicked your parent. Or Wanted to learn to play the guitar and sing “My heart is beating” like the character in the film, Julie. Or when you answered the question sitting for an interview as who is your role model and why? Or generally, who would you follow to be as successful as your role model in any field of life, be it at home or in office.
The thumb rule applied here was, if someone could do, anyone can do, isn’t it so?
What was the skill that you were using? Consciously or unconsciously, we were making use of this very effective technique called learning and adapting by copying the displayed desired behaviour, which becomes part of our coping mechanism eventually.
Yes, but how would it work on mental well-being? the next obvious counter-question.
When we face a challenging situation or an event which makes us anxious, gives us frights, turns our minds numb and faces pale that’s the time this formula of ‘Cut-Copy-Paste’ works wonders. All you need to do is to take these three baby steps:
- Revoke a memory from past when you felt absolutely in-charge of the situation.
- Add colours to that picture of yours, make it appear real. Live that moment as if it was happening right now for you.
- Now, copy that state of mind, of being capable of handling a similar situation in past, to the current moment, and paste it here.
Moral of the story: If you have done it in past, you can always repeat that magic, again in future if you truly believe in yourself.
Give it a try and let me know if it works for you.
PS: Never succumb to pressure and give up on life. Pressures are important lessons in life to grow, enjoy the journey while we are still in it.